Stop Complaining: My 36 Years of Life Lessons

I’m coming to you from a little bit away from the crowd today, taking a moment for some deep reflection. If you’ve seen my content before, you know it’s all about human behavior, sharing my experiences, and detailing my workflows, particularly how I manage my businesses across multiple countries, all from my phone. I love giving away my work structures so others can learn and grow.

The Problem: The Endless Cycle of Complaint

Over the past 24 hours, I’ve had conversations with a lot of people, and there’s been a recurring topic: ‘bad government,’ ‘climate change,’ or whatever label people are using these days. It was constantly about how bad things are getting, and it made me think about a fundamental truth: where your energy goes, your focus goes. If you constantly focus on, let’s say, ‘the government is bad’ or ‘the bad news topics,’ you will undoubtedly miss a lot of beautiful things in your life.

My perspective on people who complain about the government is quite direct. First of all, I believe the concept of government has existed for a very long time, likely centuries. I personally never complain about it because, frankly, there’s little I can do to directly change it as an individual citizen. However, for those who complain non-stop, my message is simple: then do something about it! Join the government, become a minister, and make changes. The harsh reality is that most people who complain do not want to become part of the solution; they prefer to be spreaders of what they call the ‘bad news,’ highlighting how bad everything supposedly is.

What I’ve observed time and again is that normal people have way more than they probably ever truly appreciate. Most people have a place to live, their own families (their blood), and don’t have to worry about where they’re going to sleep or where their next meal is coming from; they’re pretty much fed. A lot of people have much more than they think, yet they choose to focus on the things they cannot control – distant problems or perceived governmental failures – and these become their scapegoats.

When people are genuinely disappointed in themselves, they often seek an external entity to blame, whether it’s a person or an ‘apparatus’ like the government. I saw this yesterday when I spoke with a small business owner. He kept complaining that ‘the government takes everything.’ My response was straightforward: whether the government takes everything or not, nobody is going to change it unless you become the ‘revolution guy,’ join the government, and actively make changes. But, let’s be honest, most people aren’t willing to put in that kind of work.

I even offered this small business owner free exposure – ‘give me three pictures and a 15-second video, and I’ll put you on my Google Maps profile, getting you thousands of views in the next year.’ His response? ‘Don’t put me on camera.’ He came up with a whole series of reasons, but ultimately, it boiled down to not wanting to be seen, despite wanting his business to be known. You can’t want to be known and stay anonymous. This is a crucial point: people buy from people. They want to see what’s happening, how products are made. Show the process of creating something!

Many business owners underestimate the power of personal connection. Instead of complaining about high prices, gas, or supermarket goods while they have a wife, children, stable families, and a roof over their heads, they simply swipe away on their phones. They choose to focus on the negative instead of developing their businesses or trying something new. They aren’t willing to fail and learn.

The Solution: Take Action, Appreciate, and Focus Positively

I’ve been in this ‘game’ for over 36 years now. I’m 47 and started selling when I was 11. It took me 36 years of consistent effort, numerous failures, and countless mistakes – made quickly, I might add – to get to where I am today. I even lost everything three times and was homeless. I’ve walked both sides of life’s path, and I’ve learned that complaining leads to absolutely nothing.

My advice is always the same: do something about it. If you’re not happy, work to change it. Otherwise, don’t focus on something you don’t control. And if you choose to go all the way, put all your life energy into changing things. My purpose on this planet is to give away all my work structures so people can emulate what I do. It’s a testament to dedication and learning from setbacks. I never dwell on past mistakes; I take the lessons and implement them into optimized segments of my businesses. Very simple.

Over the past day, I’ve observed many people complaining, and it struck me how much negative energy that generates. Yesterday, an older gentleman, probably 65-plus, was going totally crazy about how bad everything is in the world. While it’s okay to vent to friends occasionally, if you complain non-stop about things you can’t control, you’re missing out on the beautiful aspects of life and potentially shortening your own. My adopted mother, for example, complained a lot, every single day, and not in a soft way. She died very young, at 56. People who complain frequently often shorten their lives; whether intentionally or not, I can’t say, but it’s a clear pattern.

A human being needs a solid ground from which to launch themselves. Many people don’t realize what they actually possess. Maybe your parents are still alive; don’t take that for granted. If you don’t like them, that’s your personal challenge. People like me, who were adopted, don’t have the luxury of looking in the mirror and seeing our parents’ features. We don’t know that connection. It’s an element of life that shouldn’t be taken for granted.

So, if something pops into your mind to complain about, just keep it to yourself. Forget about it and instead, focus on all the good stuff you have. Many people have so many good things – a car, a house, their health. I’ve been homeless, I know what it’s like to lose everything. But even then, I never complained about it; I focused on rebuilding. Complaining achieves nothing, and your negative energy spreads. I’m currently in Sofia, Bulgaria, one of the warmest days here, and it feels pretty good. The grass is turning yellow, yet there’s still beauty. I love Bulgaria, and I’m choosing to be here. I could be anywhere, but this is where I’ve chosen to build my life and my mega-projects, with a focus on real life, not just shiny objects.

Summary: Choose Your Focus Wisely

Life is too short to waste energy complaining about what you can’t change. Instead, take decisive action where possible, appreciate the abundant blessings you already have, and cultivate a mindset focused on growth and positivity. Remember, your energy dictates your focus, and a positive focus can transform your life.